lotsa things hv happened during this disappearing act... yes again. just needed some time and space to escape it all. simply no heart to talk or blog about it. but in summary:
went back to school, dad got retrenched and went into a bout of mild depression (though he does not admit it), mum was always on the edge, i had to work part-time for an events agency (telemarketing and onsite at some events) to make some dough for school fees, bro kept getting into trouble in school... just a never-ending string of problems and heartache. well i guess i know now first hand what it means by 'when it rains, it pours'.
anyway i believe the worse is over. chin up. tomorrow will be a brighter day.
Monday, June 22, 2009
Thursday, October 30, 2008
when men see red, they see hot: study
saw this on yahoo news just now. a must know for all you ladies trying to snag tt hottie - red's the color to go babes!
WASHINGTON (AFP) - The popular ballad "Lady in Red" is poised to take on a whole new meaning: a study published Tuesday showed that the color red makes men see women as hotter or, more scientifically put, more attractive.
Researchers from the University of Rochester in New York conducted five psychological experiments to demonstrate that the color red makes men feel more amorous toward women.
In the experiments, groups of young men looked briefly at a picture of a moderately attractive woman printed on a red background, and the same woman then on a white, grey or green background. They also looked at a woman in red clothing, and the same one in blue clothing.
The men found the lady with a red background more attractive, both physically and sexually.
Comparing the woman in a red shirt to the same woman dressed in blue, men said they were more likely to ask the lady in red on a date and to lavish more money on her.
As part of one of the experiments, as well, the researchers sought to see whether a group of women were similarly more attracted to the woman shown against a red backdrop than a background of a different color. They were not.
What the researchers call the "red-sex link" could have roots in humans' biological heritage.
For instance, among primates, females display more red on parts of their body when they are nearing ovulation, probably to attract the male of the species.
"Research has shown that male primates are indeed particularly attracted to female conspecifics exhibiting red," the study says.
To the authors of the study, University of Rochester psychology professor Andrew Elliot and post-graduate researcher Daniela Niesta, the experiments' findings confirm what "women have long suspected and claimed: that men act like animals in the sexual realm."
And, they added, the fact that men are more turned on by women in red also confirms that, although men like to think that they respond to women "in a thoughtful and sophisticated manner, it appears that at least to some degree their preferences and predilections are, in a word, primitive." --- hahahaha. i like the finishing remark ;P
WASHINGTON (AFP) - The popular ballad "Lady in Red" is poised to take on a whole new meaning: a study published Tuesday showed that the color red makes men see women as hotter or, more scientifically put, more attractive.
Researchers from the University of Rochester in New York conducted five psychological experiments to demonstrate that the color red makes men feel more amorous toward women.
In the experiments, groups of young men looked briefly at a picture of a moderately attractive woman printed on a red background, and the same woman then on a white, grey or green background. They also looked at a woman in red clothing, and the same one in blue clothing.
The men found the lady with a red background more attractive, both physically and sexually.
Comparing the woman in a red shirt to the same woman dressed in blue, men said they were more likely to ask the lady in red on a date and to lavish more money on her.
As part of one of the experiments, as well, the researchers sought to see whether a group of women were similarly more attracted to the woman shown against a red backdrop than a background of a different color. They were not.
What the researchers call the "red-sex link" could have roots in humans' biological heritage.
For instance, among primates, females display more red on parts of their body when they are nearing ovulation, probably to attract the male of the species.
"Research has shown that male primates are indeed particularly attracted to female conspecifics exhibiting red," the study says.
To the authors of the study, University of Rochester psychology professor Andrew Elliot and post-graduate researcher Daniela Niesta, the experiments' findings confirm what "women have long suspected and claimed: that men act like animals in the sexual realm."
And, they added, the fact that men are more turned on by women in red also confirms that, although men like to think that they respond to women "in a thoughtful and sophisticated manner, it appears that at least to some degree their preferences and predilections are, in a word, primitive." --- hahahaha. i like the finishing remark ;P
Tuesday, October 28, 2008
random updates
1. hv been feeling kinda sick for the last couple of days. started with a bad throat which went on to become a delinquent runny nose and rather high fever. argh. i hate being sick. feeling slightly better now after pumping my body with all tt meds.
2. i hate myself. when i see certain items, pass by certain places, or simply see couples walking hand in hand together so lovingly, i can't help but think of him. sigh. is this natural? or is this me being weak?
3. i have developed a love for wasabi. swore tt i would never like it and never thought tt i would acquire the taste buds for it. well well - never say never sometimes. u never know.
4. read an article about dealing with breakups. in theory, they say that for every year u've been together, u would need at least a month to get over and recover. if i apply this logic, it means tt i wld nd 6 weeks to get over a 6 month relationship? wow. wat bullshit. if it could only be tt simple in reality. you won't hv pple committing suicide or murder in e name of love.
k, tt's it for now. my brain's doing the whoozy dance again. later folks.
2. i hate myself. when i see certain items, pass by certain places, or simply see couples walking hand in hand together so lovingly, i can't help but think of him. sigh. is this natural? or is this me being weak?
3. i have developed a love for wasabi. swore tt i would never like it and never thought tt i would acquire the taste buds for it. well well - never say never sometimes. u never know.
4. read an article about dealing with breakups. in theory, they say that for every year u've been together, u would need at least a month to get over and recover. if i apply this logic, it means tt i wld nd 6 weeks to get over a 6 month relationship? wow. wat bullshit. if it could only be tt simple in reality. you won't hv pple committing suicide or murder in e name of love.
k, tt's it for now. my brain's doing the whoozy dance again. later folks.
Tuesday, October 21, 2008
the rules of the game
chanced upon this book at kinokuniya today: the rules of the game by neil strauss.
is love really just a game? a part of me just refuses to believe it. shouldn't love be smthg pure and sincere? yet another part of me feels that perhaps it is truly a game after all - one where the stakes are pretty high (having lost $ is still quite bearable as opposed to a shattered heart). interesting to note though that there are cases i've seen where it seems to be working when they treat it as a game instead.
well, i don't know. but nonetheless, i've bought the book. guess it doesn't hurt to know how the guys play this game. might come in handy in the future.
navigating relationships
met up with a close gf earlier today. despite being out of touch for abit, we are still very in tune with one another. she's a very, very good fren and has always been there for me, especially in the darkest time of my life last year. dear SXXXXX, where will i be without u?
anyway, it's her turn now to be having problems w her bf. i've met e guy before some time ago. back then he was chasing some other gal and i think he didn't really succeed. but hmm i never really had a good impression of him so even from the onstart, when she mentioned tt they were together, i was like 'uh-oh'.
then again, i believe it's hard to comment when you are just a bystander. feelings and emotions are such tricky things to navigate. you can rationalise and think but once the emos wash over you, it seems like all your intellect goes out the window and u get so overwhelmed that u'll just go with the flow as it feels sooo good, sooo right, soo natural. i've been there too many times. and even then, i still fall prey to it again and before i know it, i end up picking the pieces of my broken heart. sigh.
where does it start to go wrong? i really don't know. or was it simply just raw lust rather than love? or unrealistic expectations? or WHAT? i've always thought that as long as you do your part, then the 'give and take' balance will hold it altogether. but apparently that does not seem to be the case, as i've learnt recently. sometimes letting go maybe the stronger decision to make rather than clinging on miserably. it's painful yeah, but it could be for the better.
oh well, i will be praying for you my dear (though i don't believe much in prayers..haha). hopefully things will sort itself out on its own. but if it doesn't, i'll be here for you. tt's y it's always important to have trusted galfrens :)
ps: thanks gian. the road to recovery would have been slower without u being there.
anyway, it's her turn now to be having problems w her bf. i've met e guy before some time ago. back then he was chasing some other gal and i think he didn't really succeed. but hmm i never really had a good impression of him so even from the onstart, when she mentioned tt they were together, i was like 'uh-oh'.
then again, i believe it's hard to comment when you are just a bystander. feelings and emotions are such tricky things to navigate. you can rationalise and think but once the emos wash over you, it seems like all your intellect goes out the window and u get so overwhelmed that u'll just go with the flow as it feels sooo good, sooo right, soo natural. i've been there too many times. and even then, i still fall prey to it again and before i know it, i end up picking the pieces of my broken heart. sigh.
where does it start to go wrong? i really don't know. or was it simply just raw lust rather than love? or unrealistic expectations? or WHAT? i've always thought that as long as you do your part, then the 'give and take' balance will hold it altogether. but apparently that does not seem to be the case, as i've learnt recently. sometimes letting go maybe the stronger decision to make rather than clinging on miserably. it's painful yeah, but it could be for the better.
oh well, i will be praying for you my dear (though i don't believe much in prayers..haha). hopefully things will sort itself out on its own. but if it doesn't, i'll be here for you. tt's y it's always important to have trusted galfrens :)
ps: thanks gian. the road to recovery would have been slower without u being there.
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