navigating relationships

met up with a close gf earlier today. despite being out of touch for abit, we are still very in tune with one another. she's a very, very good fren and has always been there for me, especially in the darkest time of my life last year. dear SXXXXX, where will i be without u?

anyway, it's her turn now to be having problems w her bf. i've met e guy before some time ago. back then he was chasing some other gal and i think he didn't really succeed. but hmm i never really had a good impression of him so even from the onstart, when she mentioned tt they were together, i was like 'uh-oh'.

then again, i believe it's hard to comment when you are just a bystander. feelings and emotions are such tricky things to navigate. you can rationalise and think but once the emos wash over you, it seems like all your intellect goes out the window and u get so overwhelmed that u'll just go with the flow as it feels sooo good, sooo right, soo natural. i've been there too many times. and even then, i still fall prey to it again and before i know it, i end up picking the pieces of my broken heart. sigh.

where does it start to go wrong? i really don't know. or was it simply just raw lust rather than love? or unrealistic expectations? or WHAT? i've always thought that as long as you do your part, then the 'give and take' balance will hold it altogether. but apparently that does not seem to be the case, as i've learnt recently. sometimes letting go maybe the stronger decision to make rather than clinging on miserably. it's painful yeah, but it could be for the better.

oh well, i will be praying for you my dear (though i don't believe much in prayers..haha). hopefully things will sort itself out on its own. but if it doesn't, i'll be here for you. tt's y it's always important to have trusted galfrens :)

ps: thanks gian. the road to recovery would have been slower without u being there.